"1. You don't properly or thoroughly wash them (or at all). For the longevity of your toy and your own safety, it's crucial to maintain proper toy hygiene and storage. Honestly, using a damaged and filthy toy is just rude to your genitalia. However, theoretically, if bacteria from the toy gets into your urethra, it could put you at risk for health problems like urinary tract infections. Even though there is no guarantee that you won't get a UTI if you don't clean your sex objects, doing so does increase the likelihood that nothing of the sort will occur. The material of the sex toy and whether or not it runs on batteries are two factors that affect how to clean a sex toy. According to Lisa Finn, a sex educator at the Babeland sex toy store. You can find all the information on precisely how to keep your sex toys as spotless as possible in SELF's guide to the care and keeping of your toys, which is fortunately already available. To summarize, however, you typically don't need anything fancy (a mild, unscented soap that won't leave residue is sufficient to clean most toys), and you should wash your toy before and after every use, at the very least. Despite all of this, people become lazy. Sometimes the last thing you want to do after using a sex toy is get up and clean it. Finn advises keeping Babeland Toy Cleaner or unscented baby wipes in a bedside drawer for quick access. While a quick wipe down is preferable to doing nothing until you have time to give it a thorough wash, cleaning a toy is still preferable. a hack even more clumsy? To minimize or eliminate cleanup, place a barrier between your body and the toy, such as a dental dam or an unlubricated condom, depending on the type of toy. Having said that, there is a strong argument in favor of actually using lube with a sex toy. Yes, there is more cleanup involved, but there could be a seriously great payoff. Later, more on that. Vietnamese pornography

2. You always choose the most well-liked toy. Finn is frequently questioned by visitors to Babeland about which toy is the most popular (surprise! it's the Magic Wand). While it's perfectly acceptable to ask out of curiosity, your choice of toy shouldn't entirely depend on how well-liked it is. According to Finn, a sex toy is not like a cell phone, where having the model with the most features and functionality will make it the best. It's all about what your body needs. That doesn't mean you can't ask for recommendations on which toys to buy. A toy's extreme popularity is probably for a good reason. But as a starting point, it makes more sense to inquire about the most popular toys for the specific interest that you have. Ask about (or do some research on) the best bedtime accessories for someone who enjoys extremely intense clit stimulation (again, the Magic Wand!) or deep, heavy penetration (Finn suggests the Njoy Pure Wand). Before making a toy purchase, it might make sense to experiment a little on your own if you're unsure of exactly what you like.

3. You give orgasms too much attention. You might be saying to yourself, "Well, duh, when I use a sex toy, I want to orgasm." Because they can be extremely helpful for getting yourself off is one of their benefits. However, that mindset might be detracting from the fun and adding unneeded pressure. According to Lexx Brown-James, L.M.F.T., certified sex educator and founder of the Institute for Sexuality and Intimacy in St. Louis, "sex toys don't have to be used only for orgasm." "You can use them to enjoy the pleasure of sexual play without it being just a means to have an orgasm," the author says. How does that actually appear? Consider starting by varying the way you use your toy. For instance, when using a vibrator, Finn advises exploring your nipples, stomach, thighs, the shaft of the penis, or even giving yourself a sensual massage, as opposed to sticking to the conventional clit, vaginal, or anal stimulation. She notes that the Magic Wand was initially intended to be a back massager. Make sure it's safe to do so before changing a toy's intended use, of course. In particular, you wouldn't want to try some anal play with a dildo that you usually use for vaginal penetration unless it has a flared base so that you don't run the risk of losing it up your butt.

4. You only play with toys on your own. Bringing toys into partner sex is frequently frowned upon in a strange way. Some people are concerned that a toy is being used as a "replacement" or to make up for a performance shortcoming. However, it is not required to be connected in any way. Lauren Streicher, M.D., a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at Northwestern University's Feinberg School of Medicine, tells SELF that "many, many [cis] women are not able to have an orgasm unless they use a vibrator." Dr. Streicher advises remembering that a good sexual partner should want you to experience as much pleasure as possible, including using a sex toy if that's what you like, if you're concerned about incorporating toys into your partnered sex life. Toys can still make something that is already enjoyable more enjoyable, even if you have no trouble orgasming without a toy—or want to take the focus off orgasms, as we mentioned. Finn explains that sexual accessories "can be like delectable toppings [on] an already really good scoop of ice cream." Although ice cream is delicious on its own, I'd like some today with chocolate and a cherry on top to mix things up and add a little bit of texture and flavor.

5. You don't use any lube at all. Lube can be just as helpful—and sometimes even more so—for solo sex as it is for sex with a partner. You know, the kind of foreplay we need to self-lubricate when masturbating, we don't always have the time or patience for. Dr. Streicher also asserts that whenever you don't use lube but aren't sufficiently wet naturally, you run the risk of not only experiencing discomfort and irritability but also of experiencing some vaginal tearing.  Watch more on XHUB.TV