5 Arguments Against Virginity as a Social Construction

Modern society has made both "losing your virginity" and "virginity" into buzzwords. Boys, girls, and people alike search for that special someone to lose the big "V" with, because if you do, you can essentially cross off a major life achievement. As we saw with "The 40-Year-Old Virgin," if you don't marry by a certain age, you're considered exiled from society and doomed to live alone. Vietsub Sex Movies

1. From a medical standpoint, it is untrue to maintain the hymen before sexual activity. But many people hold this false belief about the hymen, so let's first clarify what the hymen actually is: the hymen is a membrane that surrounds the vaginal opening. The myth is that an intact hymen determines someone's virginity and that a torn hymen indicates that someone has already had sex. Hymens are naturally doughnut-shaped and are thick when we are first born, but that thick lining wears over time. Even if someone hasn't had sex yet, they can still have a "torn" hymen because of sports activity, tampon use, and masturbation.

2. Virginity is not a medical term and is based on patriarchal ideals. We commonly assume the origin of "virginity" is from Christian principles, but the term is of Greek origin, and depending on the context, Greek writers would even use the term in a metaphorical sense. Virginity is not innate; it is a human creation. A woman could only hold "God" if the womb was the purest, and the virgin Mary made virginity synonymous with chastity and purity. In a patriarchal society, virginity was then redefined as men sought the "purest" of wombs to bear their children, determining whether there would be another heir to the inheritance. It was just another way to control women to make sure they weren't having other people's children; if a woman had another child, then it would affect that.

3.0 It keeps vaginal owners in a cycle of sexual shame. We teach young vaginal owners in sex education that they will be deemed "useless" and "overused" if they have sex with multiple partners. In our contemporary society, virginity is still seen as the pinnacle of purity for young people. Vaginal owners are also taught that there must be vaginal bleeding and pain if you're having sex for the first time, as it "shows" you were a virgin to the partner. This is seen in many lessons through examples such as chewed gum and a cup of spit. Penis owners are not taught about maintaining your "purity" for your partner, which is a blatant example of double standards. Penis owners are celebrated and encouraged to simply find a "virgin" to settle down with and have children with, while vagina owners are shamed if they have multiple sexual partners.

4. Being virginal is not the norm. The conventional definition of virginity is completely heteronormative: you lose your virginity when you have penetrative, vaginal sex with a penis. Many animals engage in homosexual behavior. Why can't humans accept this? Since vaginal sex is the only form of sex that is accepted in contemporary society, we can now understand what someone means when they claim to be "half a virgin." This alienates LGBT people and portrays sex as having inferior and invalid value within the LGBT community.

 5. "Sexual debut" should be used to redefine virginity. Vagina owners need to reclaim the term and define it how they see fit — not society. This is crucial for those who have had their first forced sexual experiences. The idea that you have no control over your sexuality and the characteristics that make you a sexual being is frightening and draining. Because it's a social construct and not a word that "fits all," we need to reclaim it and use it however we see fit.

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