Let's be honest. Even for those of us who are generally accepting of sex and have experienced it, the idea of anal sex can be a little intimidating if you haven't tried it before. Anal penetration is frequently the last frontier in sexual activity for a variety of reasons, and it can involve a lot of tension and buildup. However, anticipation is often the source of our greatest fears. If you give anal a try, you might discover that you've been missing out on something that can be both really hot and satisfying. As FiveThirtyEight's Mona Chalabi noted in 2015: "100% of men and 94 percent of women say they orgasmed during encounters in which they received anal sex," some studies have found that mutual satisfaction was high across the gender orgasm gap in sexual encounters that included anal. Vietnamese porn movies

 

This might be the case because anal requires a little more foreplay and planning to perform effectively, or it might be the case that those having anal sex are perhaps a little more focused on piling on their partner. We consulted some professionals and asked them to remove the mystery from anal sex for beginners. They instructed us on a few positions that can help you ease into your first experience and actually make it enjoyable. You're going to have a kickass time if you arm yourself with these suggestions and a ton of lube. Cowgirl (or cowboy) Your partner lies down while you sit atop them in the classic cowgirl position.

 

 Yeehaw! You can ease into anal penetration as the partner on top by ascending or descending as necessary. Advice: Make sure your bottom partner waits to thrust until you are fully prepared. Nikki Ransom, a "So Tight" Sensual Fitness Personal Trainer and Certified Master Sex Expert and Educator, recommends the cowgirl position for anal beginners. This position will enable you to control the depth and rate at which his penis penetrates you, she explains. Keep in mind to move slowly and remain at ease. Being extremely aroused and having already experienced an orgasm both help. In her book The New Sex Bible, Jessica O'Reilly (also known as Dr. Jess, Ph.D.), a sexologist for PlayboyTV and an author, provides an alternative to the cowgirl.

 

She can reach backwards with a warm, wet hand to grasp the lower half of his shaft if she doesn't like the feeling of deep penetration but he wants more stimulation against the base of his shaft. Her hand turns into an extension of her butt while acting as a physical barrier to ensure that only superficial penetration occurs. Doggy fashion Due to its many benefits, this position is frequently linked to anal. You can maintain your looseness while controlling penetration as the partner on the bottom to increase pleasure. If you've tried anal before and found it painful, getting down on all fours might be your best option.

 

Doggy style is advised for beginners and those who may have previously had a bad experience, according to Patricia Johnson and Mark Michaels, co-authors of Designer Relationships, Partners in Passion, Great Sex Made Simple, Tantra for Erotic Empowerment, and The Essence of Tantric Sexuality. "Anal sex should never be painful," the couple asserts. Always proceed carefully and slowly while using plenty of lubricant. "Rub and stimulate your clitoris too to make it even more pleasurable," continues Ransom. Dr. Jess offers a different perspective on canine-style anal sex in The New Sex Bible. To give the receptive partner more control, foster intimacy, and allow for double penetration, she advises using the modified doggy. She assumes a kneeling position, placing her butt cheeks on her heels and her knees spread widely, as Dr. Jess explains. For support, she rests her hands on the bed or her knees. He moves into the same position behind her and raises himself so that the top of his [penis] is in contact with her lower back.

 

He doesn't move as she slides down his shaft and lowers herself onto his head, taking a few deep breaths before continuing. He moves around to touch her breasts or rub her clitoris as she moves her butt and hips at her own pace. Direct contact Choosing this position will help you achieve greater intimacy while performing the act. Start by mounting your partner's lap while they are facing each other. Once more, you can control the depth of penetration as the partner on top to remain comfortable. A woman's breasts and clitoral region are further stimulated during face-to-face anal, which is an added bonus.

 

Face-to-face anal is beloved by Johnson and Michaels for the sultry intimacy it offers. "This position facilitates using eye contact and breath to build even more arousal," they confirm. Dr. Jess concurs. I like this position because it gives the'mounter' good control over the depth and rhythm of penetration, she says. For this one, put on a vibrating c*** ring to increase the pleasure as the top partner grinds against his shaft. This article was first published in January 2015. Do you still want to experiment in bed? The following moves are on our list of sex positions to try: screen reader choice Additional Health & Wellness Stories Trainers' Simple Advice on How to Move Around & Exercise More When You Spend Most of the Day Sitting Down.

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