According to a recent study, we no longer have the attention span of goldfish (MS Report). In a last-ditch effort to keep our easily bored minds entertained, our brains now process information more quickly than ever before.

Most of us suffer some degree of "hurry sickness"... yet for all the hours, minutes, and even seconds being saved, we're still filling our days to the point that we have no time for such basic human activities as eating, sex, and relating to our families.

Is this new pace affecting how fast or slow we like our sex?" James Gleick  FASTR's author While few researchers have studied the pace of sex, sex therapists have relied on techniques that slow sex, like Sensate Focus and Stop-Start, to increase the likelihood of orgasm in women and give men more control with ejaculation since Masters & Johnson in the 1970s.

Heiman (2007) And this "slow sex" discussion is becoming more significant now that everything in life is getting busier (more on the research on slow sex). What are people's thoughts on the frequency of sex in their own lives? We recently conducted a survey to determine the most enticing sexual pace for both men and women.

A questionnaire about arousal was completed online by 486 men (16%) and women (84%) respectively. 38 questions describing each participant's unique arousal patterns, including their preferred sexual pace, were posed to the participants. The majority of participants were heterosexual (74.3%), young (mean age = 26), coupled (55.8%), and single (14.9%). (43%)

The main inquiries aimed to ascertain whether they would prefer a sex that accelerated or slowed down. It was expected that men would desire "fast sex" more frequently since it is thought that women are more likely to enjoy slow Vietsub Sex Movies

However, women astonished us by stating that they favor a faster pace more frequently than men. Men and women both agreed that they would prefer an equal distribution of fast and slow paces (50.2%), but more women (31.7%) chose a fast pace "most or all the time" than men (20%), who did not want it that fast nearly as often.

But the desire for this quicker carnality wasn't just influenced by gender. The main determinant of the sex pace that people desired was age. Faster sex was twice as likely to arouse the under-35 crowd than the over-35 crowd. While older people and men preferred slower tempos, relationship satisfaction stood out as a more important characteristic of the slow-sex crowd.

The individuals who preferred slower sex also expressed a lower level of relationship satisfaction. This was a startlingly important discovery that we are currently unable to explain. To fully comprehend the implications of this result, more study is required. What sexual pace is preferable? There isn't just one "correct" way to have sex.

Sexual satisfaction was not found to be correlated with the speed of the encounter. Most people prefer a balance of slow and relaxed with fast and intense. Depending on our mood, level of arousal, or preferences of our partner, we may prefer fast or slow more frequently. However, the majority of us have an idea, a general outline, of what pace best rouses us or induces an orgasm. Only when a couple's preferred paces are incompatible do issues arise. Consider Kathy and John, who have been dating for ten years. John requires a sex escalation. If sex isn't hurried, he feels more in control, and he enjoys slipping away into the passionate moment at a leisurely, sensual pace. Kathy, on the other hand, yearns for more arousal-inducing intensity. She becomes disenchanted with excessive slowness and yearns for a more passionate, rapid, and intense pace. A few years ago, both parties began to become irritated with one another as they each tried to advance at their preferred pace. In the end, they simply stopped having sex because they blamed the other for not being their ideal sexual partner. Pace is crucial in sex, just like many other aspects. not simply to "slow down. Want more on XHUB.TV